Therapy in Clapham (London), Tonbridge (Kent) & Online
Are you managing your life rather than living it? Perhaps things look fine on the outside while inside you feel stuck, numb or disconnected. It might show up in relationships, in intimacy, at work, or in a growing sense that this is not the life you meant to have.
You may already know deep down what's behind it. But knowing has probably not been enough.
Does any of this sound familiar?
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You feel “fine” on the surface, but something doesn’t quite feel right underneath
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You overthink or second-guess yourself
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There's a habit or behaviour you’d like to change, perhaps around alcohol or something else
- You look after everyone else and find it hard to say what you want
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You find certain patterns repeating in relationships or feel stuck in difficult dynamics
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You couldn't say what's wrong, only that something is
Sometimes anxiety or 'over-thinking' isn't the problem; it's the messenger.
Addiction, compulsive habits, people-pleasing and a self-esteem built on an old story are usually solutions to something older: early relationships that asked you to be someone you weren't, or a sense that you were only acceptable on certain terms. The anxiety, the low mood and the feeling of being stuck come from the same place, which is why they rarely shift for long when you work on them alone.
That doesn't mean ignoring what's hard now. We can settle the anxiety and lift the mood while also working on what's driving it, and that's usually why the changes hold.
I came to this work through my own recovery from addiction and years of my own therapy.
I work with all neurotypes. Adults who experience autistic, OCD or ADHD characteristics, diagnosed or not, are a regular part of my practice, and I adapt how sessions run to suit how you think and process.
About me
I’m Joel, a BACP-Accredited therapist. With a 25+ year career across education, training, coaching and therapy, I'm interested in personal growth in all its forms, and in supporting people to develop themselves and feel fulfilled in their lives.
My approach draws on person-centred, psychodynamic and relational therapy, adapted to you as an individual rather than a one-size-fits-all model. My style is relaxed, warm and collaborative. Therapy is a significant investment in yourself, so I offer a space where you can speak openly, feel heard, and explore what's most important to you at a pace that feels safe.
Clients often tell me they settle quickly, speak more openly than they expected, and begin to see things from a different perspective. My role isn't to fix you, but to support you in making sense of your experience and finding your own way forward.
I'm also the founder of Tonbridge Counselling Hub, which supports the local community with therapists offering face-to-face and online counselling, including a number of lower-cost spaces for those who cannot afford the full fee.
